I filed the divorce . During my seperation opposing counsel ignored to acceptence of service on behalf of my spouse while actively representing 6 M

The opposing counsel represents your spouse and does not have to do anything to make your job easier.  While attorneys will often accept service for their clients, there is no requirement that they do so.  If you had a lawyer representing you, the other attorney would probably not play this game because they know that your attorney would figure out how to get your spouse served and also out of professional courtesy.  But you do not have any kind of claim against the other attorney for doing his or her job of zealously protecting the client's interests.    This answer is given in accordance with the laws of Virginia and may not be applicable in any other state.  It should not be construed as legal advice, as that would require a more thorough analysis of all of the facts involved in a specific case.