i have a child where there has not been a court appointed dna test but her cousin/grandmother is trying to take her away

You must assert your rights when it comes to children and most other legal issues. You need to respond to the petition and have a dna test of you and the child during the course of the proceeding. No action on your part may cause you to forfeit your parental rights.  You did not say whether there is a petition for guardianship or adoption. Either way, you msut respond. I suggest you seek the help of a lawyer.