I have been married since 2008 I haven't worked since getting married my husband has outburst and I'm dead up and want a divorce what steps should I

Your question cannot be answered in this forum because more information is needed.  In order to properly protect your interest,  I suggest that you arrange to meet with an experienced family lawyer to discuss the grounds for divorce, your options and the best way for you to proceed. Please note that most lawyers charge by the hour; therefore, you need to discuss the lawyer's hourly rate before setting up the meeting, so there are no misunderstandings about fees and costs.  Best of luck~