I have two boys that don't want to see there dad.

Bottom line, all the way around, no; and, your boys should not be put in the middle by having to choose -- this is both legally and psychologically supported. Is there an order for visits? If so, you need to move to change that order, based upon the problems your boys are experiencing. That means you will need proof -- the stronger the proof, the more likely your chances of success. While you may not want to hear this, if you are truly concerned about your sons you need to act; and, by that I mean find an attorney who is willing to dig into proof, and file the required pleadings to attempt to protect your sons.