I want house car and kids. but I have no job can I get everything and him pay me

It is extremely unlikely that you would get everything and he would get nothing, no matter how big of a jerk he is.  But if he has been supporting you, you should certainly be entitled to spousal support and child support, assuming you get custody of the kids. This answer is given in accordance with the laws of Virginia and may not be applicable in any other state.  It should not be construed as legal advice, as that would require a more thorough analysis of all of the facts involved in a specific case.  If you need further information or assistance, please feel free to contact my office for a consultation. Case results depend upon a variety of factors unique to each case. Case results do not guarantee or predict a similar result in any future case.