I want my stuff from my house my wife on probation and tpo and she called the cops I got escorted and how can I prove she stalking me

You can contact the ocal police departmetn and ask for a "civil standby" so you can go to the house legally, with an officer there, so you can ge some of your things int he 20 minutes or so they will wait for you outside.   If she is "stalking" you, tell the police and see if they will investigate it - likely they won't, in my experience.