I want to file for divorce haven't been with husband since 1996 he was deported to Haiti in 2001 what can I do?

There is a process you can go through if you do not know where the person lives.  you can use the forms found on the New Jersey Judiciary website.  If you file without an attorney it is called "pro se".  there is a whole packet of forms all grouped together that you can use. One part of it requires you to prove that you provided a copy of the pleadings to the defendant.  If you can't locate him you will have to indicate that you sent it to his last know address, that he lives out of the country, etc.  It will take you a bit longer but you can do it.