I want to know i can devorice my wife if we live in different states?

Indiana has a residency requirement of 6 months.   Other states have different residency requirements.   As long as one of the parties meets the residency requirement in their state, that divorce should be permitted to go forward.  A word of caution:   If you wait for the other party to file you may be dealing with a dissolution action in another state, which will be inconvenient to say the least, and expensive to travel to court, and could put you at a disadvantage.