i wanted know what are the steps to relocate with my children out of state. divorced 10 yrs and exhusband is geting layed off.

In order to move to another state, you would have to submit documentation to the court that you have a job in another state, that there is support for you there (for example, that other family members live there) and that there is a legitimate reason for you moving out of state.  you will also have to prove that you can still allow for visitation between the children and their father.