If one of you in the marriage wants a d'ivoire and the others doesn't what happens

As long as the person who wants the divorce has grounds for divorce, then they can obtain a divorce whether the other person wants one or not.  The grounds for divorce do not have to be based on fault, such as adultery, cruelty, or desertion.  The most common ground is the no-fault ground of living separate and apart for more than one year.  If the parties live apart for a year, whether by agreement or because one party simply moves out, then a divorce will be granted.  All the other party can do is dispute any terms of the divorce, such as property division and support, or if there are children involved, custody, visitation, and child support. This answer is given in accordance with the laws of Virginia and may not be applicable in any other state.  It should not be construed as legal advice, as that would require a more thorough analysis of all of the facts involved in a specific case.  If you need further information or assistance, please feel free to contact my office for a consultation. Case results depend upon a variety of factors unique to each case. Case results do not guarantee or predict a similar result in any future case.