If your wife leaves you for another woman and leaves you is that not called cheating and abandonment?

Utah does not use the word "abandonment" as a ground for divorce, but does recognize "willful desertion of the petitioner by the respondent for more than one year; "willful neglect of the respondent to provide for you the common necessaries of life;" and when spouses have lived separately under a decree of separate maintenance of any state for three consecutive years without cohabitation." These grounds are found in the Utah Code at Section 30-3-1(3), subsections (c), (d) and (j). Now on a separate but related point, even if you don't qualify to claim any of these as grounds for divorce, you can still file for divorce without alleging any kind of fault against your spouse. This is what the "irreconcilable differences" ground accomplishes. It means that you can get a divorce simply by wanting one you don't have to furnish a "reason" for seeking divorce. If you need or just want a divorce, neither the state nor your spouse can stop you.

These terms are not legally significant. This is a no fault state (as are most states at this point). You can file for a divorce since the marriage is clearly over.

You could reasonably call it cheating and abandonment. But calling this miss behavior one thing or another doesn't help you in court.

It may be cheating and abandonment but it is irrelevant in California divorce law. If you want to file for divorce all you have to prove is irreconcilable differences.

Sounds like it to me.

Wisconsin is a no fault divorce state so those facts don't legally matter.

It might be called cheating and abandonment but there is no legal remedy for that. In California, you would still file for a no-fault divorce. If there is children involved the facts may be considered in custody and visitation determinations.

Yes, of course it is.