I'm a male with a 4 year old daughter who loves her more thank anything and I've been with my girl for 5 years now she wants to leave me because she's

Unfortunately you cannot control your baby Mother's behavior. As the Father you have legal rights and obligations. You have the right to have frequent parenting time with your daughter and the responsibility of supporting her. If the baby mother is going to prevent you from seeing her, then you may need the court to enforce you legal rights. Do not hesitate to contact my office at 617-410-6467 to discuss your legal and non-legal options.  Wyckoff Nissenbaum