Im a victim of dv i didn't show up to court , they are looking for me to serve me with a subpoena, can i go to jail if they dont find me to serve me

To be charged with failure to appear, the State would need to show you were served. I'm not advising you to leave town while subject to an outstanding subpoena, but if you do, an attorney in your new town would be able to contact the prosecutor and most likely resolve the issue. I can only speak for myself, but I've had more than a couple prosecutors threaten to charge a DV victim who didn't come to court. I've never had one actually do it.