I'm active duty military, stationed in Stuttgart, Germany. I want to divorce my deadbeat husband but he will not grant me a divorce. I need help.

My husband does not work, does not attempt to work. refuses to work. I pay and support everything. I want him to return to his home of record and move on with my life. I don't want anythng from him. No suport, no child support. Nothing, I just want my freeedom. He refuses to pay anyway, so trying to get him to take care of our son would be impossible. He has a claim against him for over $30,000 for past child support from another woman. I just want my freedom. Since we are overseas in Germany, I don't know how to do this. We have been married for 3 years, I've been in the military for 20 years. My home of record is NY, his is KS and we got married in AZ. I'm not even sure where I supposed to file. I havent lived in NY for the last 20 years. Where can I file? Who can help me get out of this marriage?