I'm having a child in August. Will be moving to palm springs California shortly afterwards. The mother and I agreed on me having the child visit me fo

       Under the law, any informal agreements that you two reach are not binding legally on the court. Before you start entering into agreements as to custody, placement or visitation, paternity needs to be established first. In Wisconsin, that can be done by both of you signing a voluntary acknowledgment of paternity or by one of you filing a formal paternity action in court. Once paternity is estalbished, the court will set what is referred to as a "terms hearing." At that hearing, the court will make orders as to custody, placement, child support, health insurance, medical expenses, birthing expenses, and any other financial orders involving the child. It is at that point, that you and the mother can negotiate and enter into a formal stipulation and order that can be approved by the court, instead of proceeding with the court hearing. If she plans to stay in Wisconsin and you plan to move to Palm Springs, that requires some careful thought as the baby cannot travel alone; that will require one of you traveling with the baby back and forth from Milwaukee to Palm Springs. There is no direct flight by the way, as I have made that trip on several occasions; you will need to change plans, usually in Phoenix for the connectintg flight to Palm Springs. Who pays for the airline tickets? How many times a year will the baby be traveling? How long will the baby be away from the mother? These are all things you and the mother need to discuss, among other issues.