I'm in the middle of a domestic abuse case. I told the DA'S office I don't want to testify or press charges. They said it's up to the state not me.

Once a person is criminally charged for domestic violence or abuse, it is out of your hands, whether you want this person prosecuted or not. You can be subpoenaed to testify in court as to what they did for you. Obviously, at some point, you felt differently, or wouldn't have called the police and they wouldn 't have gotten arrested if they didn't do something for you. You offer no facts as to what they did do to you. A factor weighing on the DA's mind, may be how aggravated the domestic abuse was against you, and whether the perpretator has a prior history of domestic violence against you or others. Assumingly, this person is either your spouse or maybe a boyfriend that you had. You can certainly convey your feelings to the DA that you don't want this person criminally charged and to work with them to offer some type of a reduced plea to resolve the case, but the DA is not just going to wave a magic wand and dismiss the charges for no reason.