Im unclear on some of the rules of a current order of protection

You likely have conditions of bond on you that requires you to have no contact, direct or indirect, with the victim.  If that is the case, then yes you are breaking the law, even if she sought out the contact.   Depending on how you are "watching" your son, you could also be in violation for having contact with the minor child and/or stalking.    Please review your conditions of bond/order of protection.   Most of them have a section in bold that sets forth exactly what it is that you are prohibited from doing.  Violations of orders of protection are considered crimes of domestic violence, which means your subsequent violation could be used against you at your current domestic violence trial.