Is it possible to have sole legal and physical custody of my one year old daughter?

Yes, you may seek sole legal and physical custody of your child, but it is impossible to predict with any certainty whether or not you will get it.  There are many factors that the court will take into account and you may get different results from different judges.  It also depends largely on what the father wants and how hard he fights for it.  However, even if you have sole custody, this does not prevent the father from seeing his child. The court will allow him as much visitation as is reasonable under the circumstances.  If his threats of absconding with the child are legitimately backed up by evidence that he has the intent and means to do so, this would certainly be taken into account.  Perhaps he should have supervised visitation until he can demonstrate that he is acting responsibly in the best interests of the child.  Likewise, the verbal threats toward you should be considered, but unless it creates a real threat to the child, it will probably not be determinative in the visitation arrangement. This answer is given in accordance with the laws of Virginia and may not be applicable in any other state.  It should not be construed as legal advice, as that would require a more thorough analysis of all of the facts involved in a specific case.