is there any way to get credit for the child support I pay directly to my daughters mom which is not under any court order? I'm going through child

  Unless you have a paper record indicating these payments to be child support payments, the answer will most likely be no. It will be even more likely a no, if you are directed to pay through a state depository and have not been doing so. If you must give payments directly to the mother/child, do so via money order or check and indicate in the memo field that it is for "child support" and save copies of same for your records.   Best of Luck,   Helena Y. Farber, Esq. ~Associate Attorney~   Law Office of Cindy S. Vova, P.A.