Me and my wife is seperated can she my rights away with out me signing any paper

Your question is not clear from what you have written.  You have to be served with a complaint and be given a chance to answer the complaint before your rights pertaining to the marriage are taken away by the court.  Before your marriage is dissolved, and property and assets divided you will have a chance to argue your case.  If you are just separated, I am not sure what rights you are concerned about.