The best approach is to cooperate fully with the social worker. Does your boyfriend have an existing order for custody of the child with the biological mother? If he does not, he should file a 'paternity action' which will address custody, visitation and support for the child.
If you marry your boyfriend, you could file a 'step-parent adoption' in order to adopt the child. The biological mother would have to be served.
Answered on Mar 17th, 2014 at 4:10 PM