my childs mother was in a car acident and wil not tel me what happened

I am not sure what the question is. As you say that the child is fine minus some scratches, it may mean that the chld did not require medical attention. However, it is sometimes necessary to probe for more information. In child custody situations, the custodial parent is supposed to share important facts or events with the other parent. If you feel you need to know more, then I would suggest that you might have to file an application for a court hearing regarding your custodial rights.