My daughters X wants to take their children to Indonesia to visit his new wife's family. He alway said he would take the children to Ireland, where he

You did not say how old the children are and whether they already have passports.  Even if they do, in most cases your daughter's ex will need a letter signed by her, allowing the trip to Indonesia.  My recommendation is that your daughter speak (again) to her ex. If she is not completely satisfied, she should tell the ex that she will not consent and that he needs to try to obtain a Court Order. If she thinks that he will just ignore her, she should have a Motion filed herself, and give the reasons for her concern.   The courts handle every request on a "case by case" basis, and make decisions based on the unique facts of the individual case. I would recommend that your daughter meet with a very experienced lawyer who practices exclusively New Jersey Divorce and Family Law matters. I think that this would be a good "investment" on her part. David F. Salvaggio, Esq.   DISCLAIMER This information is not, nor is it intended to be, legal advice. You should consult an attorney for advice regarding your individual situation. We invite you to contact us and welcome your calls, letters and electronic mail.