There is likely no easy way to get that information. Given your status as the girl's caregiver, you could start a custody action to get custody of her. You would need to notify whoever is your girlfriend's decision maker (usually a Power of Attorney). I'm certain the state of your girlfriend's health would be a topic the court would want to know about in making their decision. You should really consult with a family law attorney to discuss the details of your complex case.
Answered on Jan 04th, 2012 at 12:44 PM