My Husband, Narssisstic Alcoholic does not want a divorce I do. Will this divorce cost me a lot of money due to my Husband not wanting the divorce?

Thank you for your question. I understand your concerns as it relates to a divorce. This State recognizes “no fault” divorces meaning that the cause for divorce is not the fault of either party. In order to be divorced in NJ all that needs to be proven is that there has been six months of irreconcilable differences that caused the breakdown of the marriage. In essence, one spouse simply needs to prove that there has been differences between the parties and that it is unreasonable to continue as husband and wife. As a result, a divorce is imminent if another party files. However, there are a number of issues that need to be resolved in a divorce such as distributing marital assets and liabilities, custody (if there are children), support, and other items of importance. Based on your circumstances, it would be best to contact an experienced family law attorney to address your specific concerns. I hope this information was helpful to you.

You can get a divorce even if he objects. The total cost of the divorce would be difficult to predict, and it’s difficult to predict in any case.  It’s also difficult to predict as I’m not sure what the issues are in your case, and the more issues and more complicated the issues, the more typically incurred in attorney fees; these issues include custody, child support, visitation disputes, alimony claims, distribution of assets and debts, whichever are applicable. The sooner the parties come to an agreement on the terms of the divorce, the sooner you get divorce and stop incurring attorney fees. From what you say, your husband wouldn’t be willing to come to an agreement easily, which means you have to go through the mandatory court proceedings until you either reach a settlement or go to trial  When your husband retains an attorney, however, some sense may be talked into him about his legal obligations and of course when he starts getting legal bills that also is an incentive for him to settle. To get more details clarification on the process and the issues and costs involved, I suggest scheduling an attorney consultation as soon as possible.