my signature bond states child visitation through 3rd party,

The answer to your question is "both." Due to the restraining order, you cannot contact the victim. Per the signature bond, a third party would have to arrange your visitation, including where, when and how the children get transportated back and forth, from some neutral location. It would be best to hire an attorney and let the attorney do this for you, in my opinion. If an actual restratining order has been issued, those orders prohibit you or any third party in your behalf from contacting the victim, except your attorney.