Non compliant with court order by non custodial out of sate parent

Yes, once the other party has failed to meet a payment deadline they have violated the court order and you can ask that they be held in contempt of court by requesting the issuance of a Rule to Show Cause, as you suggest.  You do not have to wait for DCSE to act.  They will not ordinarily do anything until the account is severely delinquent, by at least $5,000.  While they can be very helpful in your case, they do not technically represent you or even the child; they represent the interest of state in ensuring that child support is paid.  Therefore, they do not have to do anything just because you want them to.  You can take actions on your own behalf or hire your own lawyer to protect your rights. This answer is given in accordance with the laws of Virginia and may not be applicable in any other state.  It should not be construed as legal advice, as that would require a more thorough analysis of all of the facts involved in a specific case.  If you need further information or assistance, please feel free to contact my office for a consultation. Case results depend upon a variety of factors unique to each case. Case results do not guarantee or predict a similar result in any future case.