so I pressed charges on my boyfriend due to us arguing can I drop the charges

You do not have the power to drop the charges - only the prosecutor does.  They will ask for your opinion as the case goes along, but you do not get to dictate the outcome.  You can choose to cooperate with the prosecutor or not cooperate - it is your choice. If you do not cooperate they can force you into court by subpoeaning you to hearings or a trial.  If you do not show up after being subpoeaned, then YOU can be arrested. You can talk with your husbands attorney, or hire your own attorney to help with the process.