Solution to my mistake .

If you want to dismiss the current domestic violence complaint against your former boyfreind, you can do so by contacting the domestic violence intake office in the county where the complaint is returnable ( on the complaint form, it will tell you where and when the complaint is returnable) and tell them that you want to appear before the court to dismiss it. The intake office will then schedule a time for you to meet with a crisis counselor who will review with you the "cycles of abuse" to ensure that you understand how and what is abuse and to ensure that you know that there are resources availlble to you for counselling purposes ( if you want) and to make sure that the decision to dismiss the complaint is a voluntary action instead of an action driven by fear ( of reprisal, cut off of support, etc). You will then sign forms acknowledging your understanding of your rights and then you will appear before a superior court judge who will also ask you a series of questions to confirm for the record that your decision to dismiss the complaint is a voluntary action and to ensure that you know that if it ever happens again, you can file a new complaint and the decision to dismiss this complaint cannot be held against you. Good luck and my suggestion is that you and your boyfreind consider availing yourselves of parenting counseling services available so that each of you will know how to back off when a particular conversation gets heated.... so that it does not become confrontational again.