What do your orders on custody and parent-time say? Those orders control.
If you haven't addressed the issues in court, a lot depends on why the other parent is out-of-state, and the financial abilities of the parties. Section 30-3-37 covers this in general.
Not having an attorney is a big mistake in a custody dispute. There are preferences for "joint custody" which may not be best in your case. As such, you need to prepare to vigorously assert your custody claims and concerns to do what truly is in the child's best interests. You need to get with an aggressive family law attorney who has experience with divorce, custody and difficult cases. I know what these cases are like, having handled a number.
Answered on Feb 17th, 2020 at 8:55 AM