It is clear that you have issues and concerns with the paternal grandmother. The significant part of your question states her rights to visitation. Since she has a court order for such contact, only another court order can alter the situation. This will require a return to court.
Although it is not required that you have an attorney, one is always recommended. An experienced attorney is best suited to assist you through the court system and to develop strategies designed to achieve your end goal. For example, the "violations" of the OP may be non-existent as third party contacts, such as the passage of pictures, may be fine. Such contact may, however, either be violative or, through expansion of the OP, be made to be violative of the OP. These are matters for discussion with an attorney that practices in your county and understands the interrelationship of OP and divorce practice.
Answered on Jan 19th, 2012 at 4:06 PM