The first question any judge is likely to ask is "why the heck have you waited FOUR YEARS to say something about this?" Obviously, there are lots of moving parts to this story.
To answer the question you asked, you file a motion to require a specified visitation schedule, with exact locations, pick up and drop off times, and sanctions -- at first monetary, and then moving toward alterations in custody -- if she does not comply.
My guess is that part of your problem is the "without hiring a lawyer" part of your question. You can get the forms at self-help that will enable you to file papers, but for the same reason do-it-yourself surgery centers are not a great idea, not knowing just what you are doing makes it harder to achieve your objectives.
Answered on Oct 05th, 2014 at 9:10 AM