What custody rights does an unmarred father have in our state for our 1 child

About your only means of either obtaining reliable permanent placement or having legal rights as to vacation travel/visitation restrictions is to obtain a formal court order of custody, visitation, and support.  For background, the rules, statutes, etc., see: http://willicklawgroup.com/child-custody-and-visitation/ http://willicklawgroup.com/child-support/ For an analysis of your specific situation, of course, you will need to consult with a qualified family law specialist, who will go over all of your facts, circumstances, and history, and can assist you in evaluating what, exactly you could do, and how; then you choose a course of action that you think would be in your and your child's best interest.