what if i cant find my spouse?

You just need to provide legal notice to your spouse, if you are seeking a divorce, not actual notice. So if you have used due diligence to try to locate your spouse and you cannot find him, you can give legal notice by publication in the newspaper when you file for divorce.  This would not allow you to obtain any support or division of property, but if all you want is a simple divorce, then you can get that.  This answer is given in accordance with the laws of Virginia and may not be applicable in any other state.  It should not be construed as legal advice, as that would require a more thorough analysis of all of the facts involved in a specific case.  If you need further information or assistance, please feel free to contact my office for a consultation. Case results depend upon a variety of factors unique to each case. Case results do not guarantee or predict a similar result in any future case.