What is the best way to handle the divorce?

I obtained a court order enforcing an unsigned, not filed, written settlement agreement because my ex did not appear and the Judge said he thought we had a valid agreement. I then took the order to the DCSS to enforce over one year ago. My ex was in continual contact with the DCSS, delaying enforcement and delaying the determination of arrears, lying about his residence, saying it was Los Angeles, when I maintained he had moved and I didn't know where to, he claimed he had sole custody and our son lived with him - both untrue but delayed the process, sending "new" affidavits, sending unsigned affidavits, both again delaying the process. I was granted a State Hearing because of the delay in filing a Motion to Determine Arrears, which was then filed so I dismissed the case. At the last minute, my ex sent an attorney to the hearing (she was an hour late) (with the DCSS) who claimed "my client owes you zero" with the court order in front of her, saying, this is the "first time I have seen this" still maintaining "my client owes you nothing" She offered me $5000, saying it is better to "get something than nothing" I refused the offer and we saw the Commissioner, my ex's attorney asked for a continuance, which I expected, I had not expected the continuance to be for six months later! Despite my objections six month continuance was granted. I continued to object to the Commissioner hearing the case and asked for a Judicial review. I went to the courthouse and filed my objection as well but did not get a copy (dumb I know) The court lost the objection and the review was denied. A month later, the other party had still done nothing and the passport application of my ex was denied. Exparte request hearing was held, excluding me despite the fact that I was on court call the same as my ex (the judge now knows this) a stay of the order was made temporary (all rights reserved) so my ex could go to "work" oversees and the money due was to be held in a trust.