When do we set up visitation and child support?

If you are in agreement, then it can be set up even before the child is born by entering into a written agreement and then filing the agreement and other necessary documents with the Court as soon as the child is born. If you are not in agreement, then you would have to wait until the birth of the child to initiate a legal action. You should consult with an attorney to assist you in the process in order to make certain that everything is properly done.

Once the child is born if the father signs the affidavit of paternity, either of you can file a petition for parenting plan/child support. If he doesn't sign it, either of you can file a parentage action. Step one will be a DNA test to determine if he is the father. Child support can then be ordered (in either of the above scenarios) dating back to the date of filing. If the two of you are agreed on the parenting arrangement, you can retain counsel to prepare everything prior to the birth, but nothing can be filed before the child is born.

I would wait until the baby is born, then file a petition to determine paternity, child support and custody. For the first few months, the baby should spend most of his or her time with you, and then gradually more time with dad.

Begin the process by seeing an attorney, eventually will want this to be a matter of court order and record. Most certainly if you can agree on the parenting time/visitation program as well as the support, it will be easier and cheaper in the long run. Although it may be easier to reach an agreement prior to the time the child is born, you should seek, receive, and listen to counsel an attorney who is very well versed in such matters because, as soon as the child is born, things change significantly. Theory is wonderful, but reality trumps it.