The mother needs to do a will in which she names the grandparents (if that's who she wants) as the proposed guardians for the child. The court will then decide if they are appropriate guardians and in all likelihood the child will go to the grandparents. If, on the other hand, the new husband decides to adopt her the child would go with him if the adoption is finalized. He he wants to be her guardian, the court will choose between him and the grandparents (if they are named as discussed above) and make the decision based on the best interest of the child. How much the child's desires count under those circumstances depends on her age, reasons, intelligence, maturity etc.
Answered on Mar 21st, 2014 at 12:23 PM