How long after meditation should a court order be signed?

I have been separated from my children's father for 3 years now and it has been everything that I expected, a struggle. The mediator is clearly biased. I have proof. As of now the defendant and I were under the impression that the last time we agreed in mediation in spring of 2021 was the standing order. Come to find out now. Feb 7 that order was never signed and she can't give it to me. Tried to get it again, the 16th and they threw it away. Which he didn't respect the judges order anyways so what is the point?