How can I get my status is order?

Hi, I was on my J-1 visa. I was working as an au pair. I got pregnant, and my visa expired. It has been expired since July 2012. My daughter is 5 months old. and US citizen. The reason I didn't get my visa in order, was because my parents don't have money to send me to school. My daughter is bi racial baby. Her dad is from Nigeria, and he also is not USA citizen. This morning Homeland agents came to our house, to review my status. One of the reason I didn't went back is that people over there would look us up like outcast. I was called names, so as my daughter - a lot of my family members and friends do not speak to me any more. Lawyers I talk to all talk about asylum, but I don't have government against me. The agent that came this morning said that he thinks that the judge might grant me some kind of a relief. I don't have any criminal record, or any sorta. Never even got pulled over by a police officer. I am in USA under 2 years.