The first thing to take care of is your legal status. Filing for removal of conditions on a green card must be done within the 3 months before the expiration date of the conditional green card, not sooner, not later. Generally, the U.S. spouse has to sign the papers; and you must show that you and your US spouse are living together (not just remain legally married). From what you stated in your question, you cannot apply successfully even if your husband changes his mind and agrees to cooperate: you will not be able to satisfy the living together requirement. In certain situations, the conditional resident spouse can apply without the U.S. spouse's cooperation. Under the circumstances you described, you should qualify. However, to apply for removal of conditions under this provision of law, you need to be divorced from your husband. The deadline for removal of conditions is excused if you apply after a divorce, but it makes sense to do it as soon as possible so you do not have to walk around with an expired green card (your driver's license is likely set to expire on the same date, and you would not be able to renew it until you get a permanent green card). The process is complicated and highly technical. I would not recommend doing it on your own. I understand your reluctance to divorce your husband. But you need to understand that it is your only way to retain your permanent residency. Also, if you divorce your husband and obtain a permanent green card independently of him, it might wake him up from the pipe dreams that he has you at his mercy. An attitude adjustment can lead to a restoration of your family on a healthier grounds.
Answered on Dec 06th, 2012 at 12:47 PM