If the petitioner does something, would my attorney notify me about any actions?

A marriage is based upon trust. If you cannot trust him, then perhaps, you should rethink engagement or marriage at this time. If he should not trust you to share this concern, then your concern is a challenge that requires discussion with him. The marriage based visa process now includes more scrutiny than a marriage among U. S. citizens, but that can be a good thing that strengthens the relationship. If the attorney or staff has had you fill out and sign forms, and obtained your personal documents, then the attorney should have a duty to inform you whether the petition has been withdrawn. However, if he took independent action, then your fiance should tell you. 'More Often,' the incredible delay in processing and scheduling the consular appointment frustrates applicants, especially the one who must await the visa. Good luck.