Do i have to return my engagement ring?

As a general matter, the engagement ring is deemed a conditional gift to the bride that becomes complete (or unconditional) upon the parties' marriage. While the argument can be made that you have been "wronged," the judicial system believes that the world is a better place if engagements are called off, rather than have unhappy people marry and then divorce. At some point, courts looked at the "fault" of the groom in breaking off the marriage to determine whether the bride must return gifts in contemplation of marriage. The modern view is that the failure of the engagement should be viewed on a no-fault basis. That is, regardless of the reason for the breakup, the engagement ring goes back to the donor. Your mileage may vary. If in doubt, see an attorney in your state. This is not legal advice.