Appellate Practice Attorney serving New York, NY
I don't know the exact procedure in New Jersey, but in most jurisdictions, if you make diligent but unsuccessful attempts to serve someone in the normal way, you can get a court order allowing you to serve them in some other way, usually by publicaiotn (i.e. placing a notice in a newspaper). However, if you can't find her, how would you collect on any judgment? It may not be worth it to lay out the money for filing and service fees if you have no way to collect. Perhaps a better way would be to start a lawsuit, and seek a court order allowing you to subpoena her isp or telepone service provider to get her address.
Answered on Feb 15th, 2018 at 12:57 PM