I think I goofed when filing Answer & cross-complaint. Please help

All is not lost and it's an easy procedure.  You have already filed your answer and the cross-complaint with the court.  Prepare a proof of service and serve the other party by mailing these documents to them.  Then, file the proof of service with the court. One option is for you to hire an attorney for unbundled services.  It's not the full services of an attorney representing you, but it would get you some help where you need it most.  You can ask for just help to draft documents, review documents that you have drafted, help with legal research, or just appear in court for you. Another option is for you to hire a paralegal to help you with the procedural issues, like what you've asked in your post. It's really tough to do this on your own and while I understand that you don't have disposable income to hire an attorrney, you also don't have the money to pay for a judgment if you lose.