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My wife and I have been married over 20 years the last few years have been troubling. She has become severely depressed been in and out of several behavioral health hospitals, They don't seem to help her She has had ECT treatments, She takes the medications while she stays in them but when she returns home refuses to take medicine prescribed, Eats only when I bring it in or fix it. Does nothing around the house takes No personal responsibility for her self like following up on doctor appointment, renewing drivers license filling for social.security/disability. I feel she has abandoned me emotionally and physically and has rejected my calls for affection. I am devastated and don't know how much more I can tolerate this . I know divorce is not the answer but it is tempting, even her siblings and members of church have tried talking to her no one seems to be able to get through to her, she is not suicidal but has given up. I am at the end of my rope and out of options. Now what ? I have tried many times to get her help, Everyone I have talked to says they can't Help her if she keep choosing to reject the Help. Why is this, a person in their right mind would not reject the help offered to them? How is an unstable person able to comprehend and make decision for themselves. (I did not See a Category for) this.
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Michael J. Breczinski
The first thing is to talk to her doctors and see if they can recommend a counselor for YOU. You need help in order to deal with this situation.
Answered on Dec 26th, 2013 at 9:14 AM
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Sadly, I am not sure I can help you or tell you what you want to hear. If your wife refuses to allow you or anyone else to help her there really isn't a whole lot anyone can do. You say divorce is not an option, but don't tell me why. It seems to me that you may have to play this card. If I were in your shoes, I would sit her down and tell her how you feel; ;that as the relationship goes, there is no relationship, and it appears that, unless she comes to her senses and gets help, there will be no relationship. Maybe she needs an ultimatum. Tell her that you will give her 6 months (or whatever time you deem appropriate) to get the help she needs and that you are willing to help her to do what is needed. If she refuses to do it, then you need to think about divorce. It sounds to me, for all practical purposes, she has already "divorced" you.
Answered on Dec 26th, 2013 at 4:28 AM