my husband went to hospital for colon polips removed end up with hernia colostomy bag kidney problems and second surgery with large wound bad healin

first surgery done 1 month and second 2 days later due to leaking and cause sepsis now placed in nursing unit for yrehab. now he is 2 months in medical facility. Went as a healthy man for "SIMPLE" procedure, and up very ill man who need a lot of care and help, I am his wife 70 years old with multiple health problems, he was my caretakers and today in facility care plan meeting i was told to learn how to met my husband needs after discharge, (with bag, hernia,abdominal wound attached drain and suction machine,kidney problems. I am helpless , he is 59 year young man I am not optimistic in this situation, but my husband is, I am sure he is still not aware what really happened after those "pain meds" Any idea and advise ? Thank You