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How can I file harassment?

Asked on Dec 20th, 2012 on Personal Injury - New York
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On the night of June 7th 2012, leading into the early morning hours of June 8th my boss and I had met an individual. We met in a lounge at the hotel at approximately ten o`clock in the evening. We offered if we could purchase him a glass of wine when we learned that he owned the hotel we were lodging at, and this week was the grand opening of this lovely 60 million dollar high-rise hotel. He accepted the drink offer but opted for a cosmopolitan martini. He had asked about the context of my boss and my relationship, asking if we were a couple, to this I said no we work together. He then asked if I had someone in my life romantically and I said yes. I have a girlfriend and showed him a picture of her. He indicated that he could not believe that I was a lesbian. After some conversation about our perspective businesses, he purchased a bottle of wine and asked us if we could join him in his penthouse deluxe suite telling us he had an incredible view of the city as well as a grand piano. Up to this time, he had not said nor did anything that was upsetting or anything that would cause me to have any concern of going up to his penthouse as my boss was invited also, however I would never agree to his invitation if I was alone. Not long after we were in his suite, my boss began to play the piano and he started blowing kisses at me as well as trying to get me into his bedroom. He was telling me he wanted to show me his Jacuzzi tub and trying to inch closer to me at certain points of the night while in his suite so he can make body contact.
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Brain Injury Attorney serving Baton Rouge, LA at The Lucky Law Firm, PLC
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I can only imagine how uncomfortable he made you. However, this was not harassment for which legal recovery can be obtained.
Answered on Dec 27th, 2012 at 1:27 AM

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Criminal Defense Attorney serving Anderson, SC at The David F. Stoddard Law Firm
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It sounds like you want to file a lawsuit for harassment. It is usually best to hire a lawyer. From what you described, I do not see much of a case.
Answered on Dec 27th, 2012 at 1:21 AM

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Ronald A. Steinberg
In simple terms, unless your "hurt feelings" amounted to some measurable damage, you have nothing to sue about. You could have walked out of the room. You did not have to stay and subject yourself to the insult.
Answered on Dec 26th, 2012 at 1:02 PM

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Commercial Contracts Attorney serving Boise, ID at Peters Law, PLLC
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You must first contact HR and tell them the situation. If they do nothing, then you must file with the Idaho Human Rights Commission based on sexual discrimination. The problem is whether you have suffered an adverse job action. If you have not been demoted, fired, lost a promotion, etc, you may not have any damages to recover. In that case you will be making a mountain out of a molehill. And as a practical matter, if you are asked what did you think would happen, what would be your honest response? It could be perceived that you accepted the invitation just to set your boss up. Having said that, if this is one of a number of harassing events, then you have a stronger claim. But your suit will be dismissed if you do not file with the Idaho Human Rights Commission first.
Answered on Dec 26th, 2012 at 10:33 AM

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Plaintiff Animal Bites Attorney serving Missoula, MT at Bulman Law Associates PLLC
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What a wonderful evening. Maybe he hoped you were bisexual. Many people are bisexual. When bi's go to a party, they have a shot at everyone.
Answered on Dec 26th, 2012 at 10:12 AM

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Personal Injury Attorney serving Charlotte, NC at Paul Whitfield and Associates P.A.
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You participated in full with this nonsense, knowing the man was strange and had notions, and now you want to file harassment charges.
Answered on Dec 26th, 2012 at 10:12 AM

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Chapter 7 Bankruptcy Attorney serving Syracuse, NY at Andrew T. Velonis, P.C.
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So he tried to make a move and you didn't like it. That's not enough grounds for legal action. You submitted this question a couple of weeks ago, and almost all of the panelists said the same thing.
Answered on Dec 26th, 2012 at 10:11 AM

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This may not be the kind of harassment which the laws about injunctions is intended to prohibit. You would do well to consult a lawyer before filing a TRO, since you might not have grounds to do so, however unpleasant this man's attentions were.
Answered on Dec 26th, 2012 at 10:11 AM

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Answer: You have no damages and therefore no case.
Answered on Dec 26th, 2012 at 10:11 AM

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