my wife says i can buy real estate but -----wants no legal rssponsibilty says she will not sign any deeds [ but of course wants to help me spend mone

Some state laws allow a married person to buy and sell real estate without spousal signatures so long as it is not homestead property.  I cannot say whether your state allows that.  Before spending your hard-earned money on any realty, arrange for a conference with a good real estate lawyer in your area.  A modest conference fee will provide you with all the answers you need.  If you intend to enter this market, you will need a good real estate lawyer anyway to examine title to your target properties and prepare the necessary legal documents.  Use your own contacts to learn who the good real estate lawyers are in your area.