Is my husband's attorney for an FRO hearing allowed to contact me to discuss dropping the charges?

Thank you for your question about restraining orders in New Jersey.  I am so sorry you are going through this difficult time.   A restraining order prohibits your Husband from contacting you, or any other third party, as his request.  However, it may be permissible for his attorney to contact you under certain circumstances.  The question of whether or not the contact was permitted is very fact specific.  I suggest you contact a family law attorney in New Jersey with experience in domestic violence victims, to discuss your specific rights or protections under the law.