my 17 year old daughter refuses to listen to me or go to school. want to kick her out but i want to know the law first in new jersey. thanks

Since your daughter is not a legal adult, you continue to have responsibility for her until age 18.  You should seek assistance from DYFS in the County in which you live.  Does your daughter have any means of financially supporting herself outside of your home?  If she does, she can also seek emancipation, which will allow her to be treated as an adult. Good luck - this cannot be an easy situation for you.